There is nothing scarier than being afraid you won’t survive.
The next scariest thing to facing death, is being afraid you won’t survive financially—being petrified you will lose everything you own, and end up homeless, jobless, moneyless and hopeless.
I have felt this kind of panic, desperation and despair. And it’s not fun. In fact, it’s quite painful. And the true tragedy is, that those very feelings of sadness, hopelessness, fear and panic will draw more negative realities to you—exactly what you don’t want.
But I also know it’s possible to turn around even the direst financial circumstances. If you look to our societal icons you’ll see many millionaires and billionaires even, have lost it all, only to turn around and create it again. Why not you?
But before I go into exactly how to begin to turn your finances around, I want to issue this…
If you are reading this you are likely in a very bad place. And you will be tempted to hop to one thing then another and yet another in a blind attempt to have someone offer you a magic pill, or fix it for you, or in some way take responsibility for your financial mess. (See, I told you I’ve been there…)
But you won’t change anything if you keep acting, thinking and feeling the way you have been acting, thinking and feeling. You. Won’t. Change. Anything.
So don’t just blow through this. If you want your finances to change you need to actually do the work. (End of sermon.)
OK, so lets get those changes happening. First, as in any emergency, you need to…
Stop the Bleeding
No, I’m not talking about the financial bleeding, although that might not be a bad idea, I’m talking about the emotional bleeding. You are likely caught in a mental loop of, “Oh my god, my life is falling apart. I’m in trouble. I am out of money. There is nothing I can do about this.”
And you need to STOP feeling that way. How?
1. Find a place to sit quietly, alone.
2. Breathe slowly in through your nose, and out through your mouth, ten times.
3. While you are breathing out imagine breathing out all of the negative emotions. Breathe out fear, scarcity, lack, struggle and powerlessness.
4. And while you are breathing in, imagine white, sparkling, cleansing light entering your body and cleaning every single cell—filling your cells with choice, love, healing and hope.
At the end of the ten breaths you will feel lighter, cleaner, and freer to make another choice. Then…
You didn’t get here by accident. You created it—unconsciously maybe, but still, you created it. Forgive yourself. Just by saying those words, “I forgive myself for creating this financial situation.”
Yes. It can be that easy. Next…
Have a Little Talk with the Powerless Parts of You
You think you are an emotional basket case right now, but the fact is, you are more secure and empowered than you know. But I’ll bet anything there are parts of you who are scared to death—and those parts of you are making you feel much less in control of your destiny than you really are. What are these “parts”?
Your child self and your adolescent self.
You see, they really don’t have a clue. They can’t create themselves out of this mess. They don’t have the power, skills or the ability—they are just kids! And yet you unknowingly turn your problems over to them time and time again.
This is not just an exercise folks. REPEAT. This is not just an exercise.
These aspects of you are real. And they have real impact on your world. These parts of you are terrified. And if you keep asking these terrified aspects of yourself to change your world, guess what you are going to get? That’s right—more terror.
So go, sit with them, talk with them—and let them tell you how scared they are about what is happening in your world. Listen to them. Let them cry, scream, rant and rave. And when they are spent, take them into your arms, and love them.
What? That’s it? Love them?
Yeah. That’s all they really want. That’s all they’ve ever wanted. Oh, and keep them safe, too. You may want to give them a money tree, or a money machine to help them feel financially secure.
What? How is me making them financially secure helping me?
Because if the most powerless aspects of you feel safe, you will feel safer. Then the adult you, who is not nearly as powerless, can step up and take back control. Hey, what have you possibly got to lose, right?
Have a Talk with Your Inner Saboteur—Your Negative Self
There is a part of you that is still beating yourself up over this reality. And that part of you does not have your best interest at heart. That part is what I call, your Negative Self. They lie. They cheat. And they want your life on a silver platter. Don’t give it to them.
Just listen. That’s it. Just listen to them rant and rave.
What would that sound like? Something like this:
You: I have gotten myself into quite a financial pickle.
NS: Yeah, I see that Einstein.
You: I’m not sure what to do, but I think I can turn this around.
NS: Seriously? What kind of weed have you been smoking?
You: No, I think I can…I have come to realize we create our own reality.
NS: Dude, you are sicker than I thought. Not only are you totally hopeless at creating money, you actually believe that crap!
You: Well, a lot of people have been creating some amazing things.
NS: Yeah, and I have a bridge in Brooklyn I wanna sell ya. Face it kid, you are washed up. Yeah you gave success a shot, but now it’s time to face up to what you are, what you always have been, and what you always will be—a failure.
You: Are you finished?
NS: No, not really, since you brought this up, I wanna tell you, that you better stop this airy fairy dreaming stuff. Life is hard work and then more hard work.
You: Is that it?
NS: No, goddamn it. You need to wake up here kid. Face facts. All this head in the clouds stuff has gotten you where? NO-where. So stop this crap and face it…you’re a loser.
You: Are you done yet?
NS: Stop pushing me kid. I want you to know…there is NO hope for you. Got it? NONE.
You: Now are you done?
NS: No—you should know…those jeans look stupid on you.
You: Is that it?
And that is when you call upon your unseen friends to come and escort your Negative Self away for healing.
After that, breathe a sigh of relief. Because a huge burden has been lifted from you. And now you are free.
Now that you have a little emotional balance back, you can also gain some perspective. You will want to remind yourself that:
1. You are in a tough spot short term.
2. Everything will change.
3. You can have total impact over what that change is.
4. You are unconditionally loved and supported.
5. What really matters isn’t money.
6. If you have to let go of everything you have and start today with a clean slate, you could create an amazingly abundant, love-filled and beautiful life.
7. And letting go, at least energetically, may be the shorter path to creating that life than holding on would be.
Now, take a few more deep breaths. And it’s time to…
Take Your Power Back
If you have done what I’ve outlined above, you are in a different place than you were before you started this “emergency” work. You are where most people begin. And like other first responders, this is meant to stabilize you, not to guide you through recovery.
You still have to do the work of creating your reality:
1. Own you are divine
2. Decide what you want
3. Flow energy towards that dream (and away from your nightmares)
4. Take action in the world
5. Watch for your world to respond
6. Stay in joy
7. Ask for help
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