The biggest misconception about the law of attraction is that once you know it exists you can simply choose a reality and it magically appears.
That does happen sometimes—but rarely. More often than not we need to work diligently at making things manifest in our reality. That doesn’t mean it’s difficult, but it does require becoming conscious of the energy you’re putting out.
I want to share a story with you that beautifully illustrates the art of creating. Em was on our team here at Inner Art Inc. And a few years back she was in London, introducing The Map to new age bookstores.
The backstory to this story is that Em only came upon The Map a few years ago, and it changed her life in so many ways she reached out to me, and lo and behold she created working with me to promote The Map to those who are ready to make the leap to creating a life they love.
If your dreams are not manifesting, read this letter she wrote to me recently, after her first few weeks in London:
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Hi Boni!
I hope things are great with you. We are enjoying London. My clothes are already a little tighter and skin a little paler…. but we are very happy here!
I wanted to give you an update on how things are going and, as usual, a little creation story for you.
As you know, I am so passionate about promoting The Map. I truly dream of its success – seeing it on posters, on billboards, on TV and in every bookstore in the UK (/ world). I dream of it transforming the way millions of people see their lives and each other. The thought of being an instrumental part of that creation really lights me up…and I know I’m on the right creation path. I flow energy to those images every day.
But, strangely, I’d noticed some resistance to visiting the bookshops. I found myself saying things like, “It’s raining today, so I’ll go tomorrow”, or, “I’ll wait for a different time when the Tube is quieter” etc. I noticed that I didn’t feel excited about the visits, which I thought was very odd.
I couldn’t work out why I was feeling this way. I’d been flowing energy to my dream and I believed my thoughts were positive. I was a bit confused, so I asked a question to my pack of oracle cards (they always give me amazing advice).
I held the pack close to my chest and asked something along the lines of “I intend to bring The Map to the UK, to see it in every bookshop, for it to be a complete success and sell beyond our wildest dreams. In what way am I resisting/blocking this intention?” This was the (spookily accurate) answer I got:
‘You may be feeling stuck where your personal intentions are concerned. Self-mastery and discipline may be hard to achieve right now, or specific plans for personal change may be being blocked. Remember that your intentions need to be clear and unconflicted. Whatever you’re working on, you need to know that you are capable of achieving it – and that you deserve it. Put your heart into the plans and changes you desire and realize that you are worth your own time and effort. The new beginning you seek will come with your own focus and patient determination.’
I was confused by this message because I thought my intentions were already ‘clear and unconflicted.’ Then I thought about the resistance for a while and realized, after some careful inquiry, I had thoughts going around in my head such as ‘these bookshops must get visits all the time from people with books to sell,’ or “’he owner won’t have time to speak to me when the shop is so busy,’ or, ‘I know very little about this book world, I’ll look stupid’ or, ‘I don’t want to come across as a ‘sales’ person and seem pushy’ and there was definitely an element of I’m not good enough to achieve this’ in their somewhere too!
Just unhelpful little nagging thoughts that I hadn’t noticed until I took time to seriously consider them. Actually, when I really thought about it, I realized my thoughts were probably more negative than positive. This was quite a shock to me because, at a conscious level, I was 100% sure of my dream. This was so interesting…
I wasn’t able to identify exactly what beliefs were behind this resistance, so I decided to do your belief changing meditation a little differently. I went into the ‘beliefs room’ with my subconscious king & queen and higher self/unseen friends. This time, I just stated my intention and asked the king, queen, higher self and unseen friends to find any belief that prevented my intention from becoming real in the physical world.
They started pulling a few pages out of my belief book, although I couldn’t see exactly what the beliefs were…but they had my permission to remove them as long as doing so was in line with my highest good. I yawned and had yawn tears running down my cheeks (always a good sign of energy moving)! I felt quite different afterwards. I realized I had been TRYING to get books into stores instead of simply DOING it. That was a very real shift that I felt.
Just an hour later I was in my first bookshop – Watkins Books. This has been an esoteric bookshop for over 100 years, the biggest in London, and you can feel the history in the time-warn bookshelves and warped floorboards. It is beautiful. There’s a tarot card reading going on in one corner, every crystal you can imagine in another corner, and two huge floors of amazing books on every new age, esoteric topic you can imagine. I asked to see the manager/owner. Someone went to get him for me. Just a few minutes later we were hugging after he said he wanted to stock The Map in his shop (they already order from New Leaf)!! They also have a great online bookshop. Yippee!! I was walking on air.
Next I revisited a bookshop (Mysteries) I’d been to before because I wanted to buy a crystal. While I was in there I heard someone say, ‘Branca.’ I knew Branca was the owner (she was on holiday the last time I’d visited). So, I asked if I could speak to her and she also agreed that (as long as she liked the book after reading it) she also wanted to stock it!!! She gave me a big hug too! Yippee again!!
Then I went to another amazing shop (The Astrology Shop). A beautiful, magical shop in a stunning part of London. It felt a bit like the wizard/magic shop in Harry Potter. Once again I got to speak with the owner…and once again he said he’d love to stock the book…and this time, he also offered to help me get it distributed in the UK! He said he’d even make some calls for me.
This experience really taught me a lot. How easy it all was after I’d looked at my thoughts/beliefs in more detail. Everything just felt so good and was so easy. Not only did I actually get to speak to owners/managers in all three shops (I haven’t managed this before), they all wanted to stock The Map AND they were all very helpful in giving me distribution advice.
I sent them all follow up emails this morning. I’m really looking forward to visiting the shops in a couple of weeks and seeing The Map on their shelves!! :-)
This was a great learning in ease, elegance and flow.
I hope this wasn’t too long an email. I get a bit carried away when I’m excited!
Lots of love,
Em xxx
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Don’t you love Em’s story? She’s living proof that you can get to the reason you don’t feel motivated or positive about any aspect of your dream. You can change what needs changing within you.
And then, you can create what you want.
Again—you can create what you want.
That’s the bottom line, after all, right?
Too often those little voices within us get their way and sabotage our dreams. But don’t let them. Learn how to work with your ‘negative self’ and take your power back.
You deserve a life you love.
With much love,
P.S. One way to really start becoming conscious of the energy you’re putting out, as well as focusing your energy on your dream, is to work with our Creation Journal. Based on the steps laid out in The Map, this beautiful journal will help walk you through how to manifest your dream, making the whole process easier and more elegant.
And I’d love to hear your stories of how you’ve realized something within you needed to shift, changed your thoughts, feelings or beliefs, and then watched your world respond. Please leave your comments below.
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