Dear Boni, There is a man in my life whom I adore, although he has some traits that I find troublesome—namely his lack of commitment. How do I get him to be more attracted to me and ultimately, commit to me? Signed, Unlucky in Love _____________________________ Dear Love, First of

Dear Boni, Can I choose my future husband—even thought this man doesn’t live in the same city as I do, we haven’t met in person and he doesn’t know I exist? With gratitude, Hopeful _________________________ Dear Hopeful, Sorry to dash your hopes, but no, you cannot choose your future husband

Dear Boni. Hello from Athens, Greece! I have read your articles for the past 5 years, and they are great. At this point of my life, I have a difficult situation to deal with and maybe you can help me. My intention is to create a relationship with a really

The brutal death of George Floyd on May 25th 2020 by a white police officer was beyond discriminatory—it was barbaric and hateful—and it was indicative of the deep level of racism permeating the United States and the world.  It was this murder that began to wake people up on this

You want to create abundance—lots of money and other abundances as well. But there’s a nagging little voice in your head that whispers, “But what happens if I do become rich? Will my family and friends come out of the woodwork seeking to share in my newfound wealth?” This one

If you’ve realized that one of the major obstacles to getting what you want is wrapped up in feeling inadequate, not valuable, or somehow less-than, you are dealing with feeling unworthy.  These feelings of unworthiness are what I call a “core belief” and can start forming as early as childhood.

I don’t know of a single adult who feels they had a father who really deeply and functionally loved them. Well, ok, I know of one… but not personally. I dissociated most of my childhood. My brothers have so many more memories than I. My first memory of my father