“What is essential is invisible to the eye…” Antoine de Saint Exupery

It breaks my heart that most people haven’t a clue about who they really are. Nearly all of the people I talk with, whether on the ‘path’ or not, do not recognize the majesty of their being.

On the other hand, it is important to remember that we came to this planet as physical beings with the foremost intent to forget who we really are!

We wanted to have the experience of removing ourselves from Source (or God, or Goddess, The Divine or whatever) so that we could have the awesome experience of remembering.

So that people forget, really isn’t that big of a deal. But that people remember is a big deal.

Why? Because if you remember that you are divine, you remember that in your divinity you have been given the gift of creation. You are a god being.

You are also eternal. You can never die. Oh yeah, your body will die. But you are not your body. Your body, like the rest of this planet and all the people on it, is an illusion – an elaborate, very believable illusion.

So what does one do with this information?

Let it in. Stop judging the god-being you are. And stop judging the god-beings others are.

You mean they are divine too? I thought they were part of the illusion?

They are divine. They are part of the illusion. Everything is divine. And everything you can see or touch or hear or smell is part of the illusion.

And you are creating it all.

So to judge anything or anyone (all of whom are both divine and your creation) is ridiculous. It would be paramount to being mad at someone who hit you in a dream.

The more you own your own majesty, your light, your love and your ability to create your world, the more empowered you will be.

Start today. With this intention: I intend to own and experience my own majesty, love, divinity and my ability to create my entire reality to the greatest extent I am capable.

And watch your life begin to change.

I love you.

“Happiness is like a butterfly; the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.” ~ Henry David Thoreau

While most people would argue having a life you love will make you happy, I would argue that happiness will help you to create a life you love.

Think about it. Emotions create reality.

Be happy. Manifest more in your world to be happy about. Be unhappy. Manifest more in your world to be unhappy about. Easy peasy.

What? Not so easy?

No, I guess it isn’t. If it were more people would actually be happy, wouldn’t they?

Yes, even for me staying happy is a constant effort. Notice I didn’t say it’s a struggle… it’s not. But I do have to stay conscious about it and continue to do what it takes to keep the happy. And what does it take?

Well, I suppose this might be a little different for everyone, but I have 10 suggestions most of which on their own do shift me into happy – but combined together they are kick-ass vibe lifters!

I challenge anyone to stay unhappy if they earnestly apply these suggestions:

Set an intention

Intentions are the cornerstones to creating your reality folks. And every part of your life deserves at least one! Here is mine for my well-being emotionally:

I intend to live in the now and feel greater and greater depths of love, fun, joy, happiness, ecstasy, compassion and caring for myself and others; to have fun continuously, and to open (more every day) to my creativity, psychic abilities and passion.

Hold it in your image

When you think of yourself, do you think of an ecstatically happy person? No? Well lets change that shall we?

Your self concept keeps you locked into a reality that will support your self concept. Change your vision of yourself, and you will change your reality.

Affirmation: I am happy and becoming happier each and every day!

Look for reasons to be happy

It doesn’t take much of this to shift from self-pity (or any other constrictive state) to happy. Keeping a gratitude journal is one of the most amazing ways to stay happy and exuding a flow of good things coming to you.

The caveat: you must do this in earnest. Writing a laundry list that you don’t feel real love and appreciation towards is an exercise in futility. It only counts if you’re actually feeling the gratitude.

Empower yourself

It’s hard to feel happy if you feel powerless and hopeless. And some people have good reason to feel this way, and perhaps happiness eludes them. You’re not one of them.

If you are reading this blog you are ready to accept your divinity, your power and your ability to create your own reality. But it doesn’t happen overnight and it doesn’t happen just by saying it.

If you have beliefs that deny who you are, that downplay your power, that imply you don’t deserve a phenomenal and exciting life you absolutely adore, then change them.

If you are serious about being ecstatically happy and creating a life you love, your growth should be a priority. It is possible. Commit.

Slow, slow, slow down

One of the biggest happiness stealers is multi-tasking.

What? You couldn’t live without multi-tasking? Ok, fine. But you will have to give up ‘multi-thinking’ if you are serious about happiness.

Most of us are so focused on what is left to do, we stop paying attention to what it is we are doing. And it stops being enjoyable. And there goes our happy.

Give yourself 5 minutes a day, or 5 minutes 3 times a day, to make a list of what needs to be accomplished that day. That’s it. The rest of the time, slow down and be present.

Really feel the sun on your face as you walk to the car. Really pay attention to that store clerk who bags your groceries. Send ‘em a little love. Really focus on that email and only that email, not the 72 unread in your inbox.

This is a magical fix folks. Try it. You’ll like it.

Honor your needs and what feeds your Soul

We all have things that nurture us, that feed our soul and rejuvenate us. Some of these things are actual needs.

I have a need for solitude. If I don’t get solitude at least once a week if not each day, I am not a happy camper. Life gets hard and I get cranky. For me, solitude is a need.

For my husband, physical exercise is a need. When he is able to swim, bike, play tennis or ski, everything else he does gets easier. For him, exercise is a need.

What are your needs? Are you giving yourself permission to fill them?

And what feeds your Soul? Things that feed your Soul aren’t needs, they are preferences that offer great benefit. They are the things that you love that make you more.

Being in nature may feed your Soul. Beauty may feed your Soul. Music may do this for some. Hobbies do this for others.

Giving yourself the permission and time to do the things that nurture you is a key to staying happy.

 Take good care of you

Your body has needs, which if not heeded, can have debilitating effects on your physical and emotional bodies. Good clean diet, exercise to fit your temperament, and relaxation activities to reduce stress should all be part of your normal way of life.

If they aren’t, please add them. A body undernourished, filled with toxins, and stressed out is not going to add to your happiness or your ability to consciously create your world.

If you don’t believe you can add these things to your life, for either financial reasons or time constraints, change those beliefs! Your life is your creation.

Use mood altering substances

Ah, now don’t get excited, that’s not what I’m talking about.

I am talking about amazing mood altering, nature given flower essences and aromatherapy.

I have worked with Bach Flower Remedies for years. And they are phenomenally effective (actually miraculous) in lifting your emotional well-being to higher states.

Aromatherapy is another great way to change your mood. Simple and effective, aromatherapy is in widespread use by medical professionals in Europe and although it hasn’t caught on as well in the USit is readily available.

There are lots of good aromatherapy books out there, but make sure you only buy 100% pure essential oils.

Get professional help (if you need it)

We all need a little help sometimes. And that goes for mentally and emotionally too.

If you are dealing with intense grief, depression, anxiety or other debilitating emotional states, find someone to help you through this until you can manage getting to the happy place by yourself.

Ask for help (need it or not)

Finally, don’t forget to call on your unseen friends. Although this is listed last, it is actually the first thing I do when I find myself in a state less than total joy!

How do you ask for help? Just say something like (in your head), “Hey Higher Self, Soul, counselors, and the rest of my team, I intend to feel happy, and I’m not there right now… please help me to get there?”

That’s it. They are always there… always listening, and if you allow them, will always help.

Good luck staying happy folks… I know it’s possible, and I know you deserve it.

In joyous creation,

Dear Boni,

I’m a college student who wants to study hard and work hard to receive good grades but I don’t feel much motivation to get my work done. My dream is to sing and make music for a living.

I’m a journalism major, and I know I love writing and I love the idea of writing for a living as well (especially if it’s about music). I love my writing and my music classes, but I have other classes I need to do well in.

I don’t know what to do.

Signed,
Excited to Sing

Dear Excited,

You aren’t alone. There are many people out there who think they need to follow a certain path in order to be successful.

You don’t. But if you believe you do, then you do.

This is important. If you believe you do then you do. Your beliefs will make you fail if you quit school to write and sing. And your beliefs will make you fail for a hundred other reasons too, if you let them.

What’s a person to do?

Change your beliefs

I know it seems easier said than done (and honestly, what isn’t easier said than done?). But it isn’t that hard. In fact it isn’t hard at all. It is just elusive. Beliefs are changeable.

That isn’t to say to drop out of school. But after you have changed the belief:

I can’t be successful unless I complete college.

To:

I can be successful whether or not I complete college.

You will then be free to make that choice unobstructed by the ‘have tos’. The ‘have tos’ make us feel bound when we desire to feel free.

They can really mess up our motivation, and if our motivation isn’t clear, we will have a hard time creating what we desire. Why?

Because our desires manifest when we feel good. They do not manifest when we feel bad, and feeling we ‘have to’ do anything feels bad. That is very simplified, but true nonetheless.

If you are doing anything because you think you ‘have to’, you likely aren’t enjoying it and it is probably messing up what you really want.

However, maybe college is the right choice

You did say you are studying music and writing and loved that. That is awesome!

And you said you did not love some of the other classes. My question to you is: Can you change schools or curriculums to have more of the classes you love?

And my other question is: Can you shift your motivation for even some of the classes you don’t love, to be in alignment with your dream, so that you may be excited about doing well in them even if you don’t love them?

For instance, many artists fail because they don’t understand business, finance and marketing. Imagine if you were immediately at the top of your industry because you not only understood these things, but handled them brilliantly?

Can you get excited about English, because it could help you write well? Creative Writing, because it could help you tell the story in your songs? Phys Ed, because a well balanced body will perform better?

You don’t necessarily have to stop doing the things you do, to start feeling good. You can simply change the motivation underneath them.

Instead of motivating out of ‘have tos’, start motivating out of the love for a successful music career.

But first, change the belief that holds you hostage – because until that is different, you probably won’t be able to change the motivation at all.

I hope this helps Excited. Sending you love and light to create all you have dreamed of and more.

In joyous creation,

“Put your whole soul and being and life into the act you are performing. In Zen archery your entire being wills the arrow into the bull’s-eye with an invisible force. No matter how small the task, you have to teach yourself that it matters.” ~ Zen Principle

Ok. You know that taking action is an important step in manifesting your desires. But you are confused as to where to begin, right?

Don’t worry. This happens to everyone at one point or another.

Do not – repeat – do not take action just to take action. Do not take action to ‘prove’ it to yourself or anyone else that you believe in your dream. Do not take action if it feels like it’s your duty or obligation or because you think you should. Those types of actions will stop your dream from coming!

What? Acting out of the wrong motivation will stop my dream?

Yes! The wrong motivation for action will stop your dream! And come on now, you’ve come so far, with setting those intentions and flowing energy towards your desire… you owe it to yourself and your future self to get this step right.

The first and most important thing to ask when considering what action to take is: what most excites you?

And if the motivation to act out of excitement isn’t readily available to you, that’s ok. It may just take a little finessing. So begin by slowing down. Take some time, get away from email, phone, family, friends, and just be with yourself and your dream.

And think about, and feel about how it will be to create what you desire to create. Imagine for a moment, that you could not fail. No way. No how.

Imagine your success is guaranteed. Stay focused now; don’t let your mind wander.

Knowing that and knowing you do feel like doing something, just not quite sure what it is; what would be the most exciting fun and joyous thing to do right this minute?

That is the thing to do next.

You see, it is our nature as human beings to joyfully create. It is our nature to dream dreams, to act from our highest excitement, and to manifest those dreams.

And the thing that keeps us from doing that is the conditioning we have received that says it’s not possible. Or worse, that if we reach for our dreams we’ll be punished.

Once we are back in alignment with our true nature, and we focus purely and simply upon our dream, we know instantly what would be the most fun to do towards that dream.

So slow down, keep dreaming, and above all else have fun on the way to the receiving. That, after all, is really what it’s all about.

In joyous creation,

I met the man of my dreams… but he’s married.

I was offered a job… but it pays half what I need.

I met a friend who shares my interests… but she lives an hour away.

I finally found a car I love… but I can’t afford it.

This happens a lot. When you think about it, it’s bound to happen. Why? Because

Dreams show up a little at a time.

Sometimes dreams show up all at once, but that is a rarity. Usually you will receive ‘signs’ that your dream is coming before it shows up in its entirety. There are two reasons for this:

1. It takes a while to direct your flow of energy towards (and not away from) your dream. This is an acquired skill. For every new dream, it takes a while to get your thoughts and emotions (not to mention your beliefs) in alignment with your desire.
2. Time is a buffer in manifesting on this planet. Time lets you practice creating your reality without hurting yourself (or your reality) too much. Most people have a mix of positive and negative thoughts and emotions. Time keeps the really negative ones from manifesting instantly, such as “Oh my God I thought I was going to die when that truck came so close!” If you didn’t have time, you would have died.

Dreams seldom manifest in one big, happy package. They take time. The better you get at this, the less time they will take, but they will always take some time.

One of the best things you can do to become better at conscious creating, is to understand this fact and not be disappointed when you receive ‘half the dream’. Because you see, half the dream isn’t really half the dream at all; it’s a ‘sign’ that the whole dream is on its way.

Don’t be like most people

The way most people handle ‘signs’ like the ones above is to focus on what isn’t there.

I still don’t have a relationship.

I still don’t have enough money.

I still don’t have a friend next door.

I still don’t have the car I love.

How should you respond? By taking the ‘sign’ as a sign you are closer than ever! That might sound something like this:

Oh my gosh! I met the most wonderful man… he must not have been the one I’m creating because he’s not available, but I created him in my world! I must be getting closer to my relationship! Hooray!

Yay! I am flowing energy towards a job that pays well and look what happened! I received a job offer! Yeah, so what that it isn’t exactly what I want yet? I’m celebrating that I created a wonderful sign that it is on its way!

I love this new friend! Yeah, she’s further away than I had hoped, but who knows what will happen next? Maybe she’ll move closer? Maybe I will? Maybe I’ll meet someone I like as well or better who lives next door! It’s exciting creating my reality!

I am so excited I found the perfect car! A month ago I didn’t think one existed, yet here it is. Now to add an ingredient to this dream – affordable! Maybe more money will come in or another car will show up like this one for less… either way I’m so happy that my magic is working!

It will take some practice to always respond to your reality in ways that support your dream, but you can get really good at this. And its fun watching the signs arrive while you’re flowing energy for the whole enchilada!

Let the half dreams redirect the whole ones!

Sometimes the signs you receive will cause you to refine your dream or even entice a brand new dream.

An example from my world:

I was focusing on creating money some years ago, at a time in my life when money was a huge struggle. Here’s what happened:

• I created a fun job doing interesting work… but the pay was terribly low. So I focused a little more energy towards being financially secure.
• Within weeks, I was offered a full time job with good pay… but the drive was too long – so I turned down the job and focused on feeling free as well as prosperous.
• A few days later the job offer was amended allowing me to work 3-4 days from home and to work hours which allowed me to avoid traffic.  This was ideal for a while… but then I decided I wanted more responsibility and more authority. I began to dream and focus energy on that.
• Sure enough, within a month I was offered a promotion, a raise, and given many accolades… but I longed for my own company so I would have unlimited opportunity for abundance and freedom; and I began to dream this too.
• A few months later the company announced it would be closing and my hours were cut in half (gasp… this wasn’t what I wanted – or was it?). I kept my focus – joy, prosperity, freedom, responsibility, autonomy, etc. I was determined no matter how my reality looked, I was ultimately moving in the direction of my dream. Sure enough, within days my boss and I were given the company I used to work for. My dream had come true to be my own boss… but I was back to very little money again. You know the drill… I put more focus on prosperity, joy, fun, etc.
• The focus worked. The company grew… but my new partner and I had different visions. My dream had grown and so had I. I was at a new level, and needed to dream again. I began to focus on owning it all myself – the joy, the freedom, the fun, the challenge, the creativity, the autonomy.
• Just six months after opening our own company my partner made me an offer – and although I was still broke, I managed to buy her out. I owned 100% of a thriving company that would gross nearly $5 million just a few years later.

It really is your choice

There will always be a choice as to how to respond to your world when your reality seems less than ideal.  If you can train yourself to respond with hope, excitement, positivity and genuine expectation that the ‘sign’ just put you closer to your dream, you will find it easier, more elegant and more fun to consciously create your world.

In joyous creation,

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Hi Boni,

My husband and I are in the agricultural business. We recently moved to a very, very remote ranch. This move meant living in a location we both loved, but it also meant that I had to quit my job.

For 6 months now, I have been trying to find something I can do from home to create an income for myself. I even fell for a scam that cost me 77 precious dollars. I am constantly worried about money. And I know that is the wrong way to think.

But, I can’t shake the worry. I want so badly to have an income, but I really don’t know what to do to get one. And I don’t know how to stop thinking about money.

I’ve read and reread The Secret and The Power. And I want to read The Magic, but can’t buy it. I don’t want to say it, “I can’t afford it,” but…I can’t. How do I get myself out of the money funk?

Signed,
Afraid My Fear is Hurting My Reality

Dear Afraid,

I absolutely know how you feel. I’ve been there myself. There is nothing more petrifying than imagining you will never have enough money (other than maybe worrying you will never have enough health).

And when you know your thoughts and emotions are powerful reality creators it becomes even scarier. But that is the good news.

You are aware of the power of your thoughts and feelings. That is reason to celebrate! It really is up to you and you are open and (hopefully) excited to shift and change.

It happened to me too

I was very much in the boat you are in – minus the husband and rural location. I had no job. I had to move from my home because it was being foreclosed upon.

I didn’t know what to do or where money would come from. Every time the phone rang I cringed, thinking it was a creditor demanding payment. I pictured myself homeless, penniless and having to move in with friends or family. Every day was awful – living in that emotional state.

So, how did I break the cycle of scarcity? First, I took an…

Emotional time out

I was sick and tired of being so unhappy. I decided I would rather be a happy bag lady than an unhappy anything. I was fed up with letting money (or the lack of it) ruin my life.

“I’m over it,” I decided. And cold turkey, I stopped worrying about money.

Now this goes against what most of us have been taught – if we care about something, we worry about it. But worry never helps (and actually hurts). And realizing that combined with being emotionally worn out helped me to let it go.

And you know what? It was wonderful. It was the first time I actually chose joy, especially when there was clearly so much to worry about. It liberated me. My reality wasn’t in control of my happiness. I was.

ow I hadn’t stopped worrying in order to create money, I had stopped because it felt so bad. But once I was in joy, I thought, “Why not try to consciously create some money? It can’t get much worse than it is, so what do I have to lose?”

And that is when I began to…

Create the day

Every morning I would wake up and sit for 5 minutes, to Create My Day. I would close my eyes, and imagine myself in a beautiful place. My beautiful place was an outside café, on a river inFrance. I sat at a round table, with my Higher Self, my Subconscious Mind (personified), and my Future Self (the future me who was tremendously successful and prosperous).

And I told them about what I wanted them to help me create that day. I said, “Today I want to feel prosperous!” and I felt for them, what prosperous felt like. “And I also want to feel joy today and here is what joy feels like.” And I felt joy for them.

I also wanted to feel excited, creative, abundant, worthy, helpful, positively surprised, hopeful, productive and I wanted to have fun! I felt all those feelings for them. Why? Because often times we’ve been less than clear about our intentions.

We say we want joy but we settle for worry, for instance. We say we want prosperity but we receive scarcity. And the universe may not be so clear about what we mean. We say one thing and we accept another – our subconscious mind begins to think ‘our’ abundant means lack. So I emotionally spelled it out.

Plus, it’s the emotion, tied to the thought, which brings the reality.

And at the end of the day, I would take stock. Had I receive reasons to feel these ways? If yes, I would thank my unseen friends for their help. If no, I’d have another little sit-down and explain, “Ok, I ordered prosperity for today but I received an unexpected bill, so let’s go over again what prosperity feels like.” And I would feel it – fully and deeply.

This technique was great fun. I also practiced:

The anti-worry technique

Any time anything happened in my life around money, I forced myself to anti-worry. If I got bills, I filed them without thought as to how I would pay them. And if my mind did go there, I decided somehow, they would get paid. No biggie.

And when I received any abundance whatsoever, I would feel gratitude. That’s when the technique really shined!

I took a job as a temp (in your location, Afraid, that might translate to a virtual assistant) just two days a week in order to get some energy flowing (remember taking action is part of The Map). My first paycheck was $164.36. My rent was $1000. You do the math.

But instead of lamenting about there not being enough, I took that check in my hands, sat down on my bed, and said, “This is $164.36 that I created! I am $164.36 richer than I was yesterday. I made this happen in my life. If I can create one dollar I can create $100, or $1000 or $10,000. I am abundant. Thank you universe and my unseen friends for helping me create and receive this!”

And I felt as much gratitude as I could possibly squeeze out.

And little by little, my life began to change

It wasn’t long… just a matter of weeks, and I was offered a job by one of the companies I temped for. It wasn’t on my terms so I said no. And then they made me an offer that was on my terms. And I accepted.

I continued to practice “Create the Day” because it was working so well for me.  It helped me deal with working with demands that seemed overwhelming at times.

If I found myself stressed out instead of having fun at work, I would take a break, even if it were just to the restroom. I would send a request to my unseen friends saying, “I intend to feel joy, please help me to feel it,” and “Remember this is what joy feels like…” and I would feel it. Like magic, it worked.

Two years later I found myself offered a job as vice president of a new marketing company and six months later, when they closed their doors, I was given the opportunity to continue it as my own company.

An accident? No. Luck? No. Just the universe at work as always.

The real Secret is –

You don’t need to know what to do, or even what to expect! You don’t need to know where the money is coming from, or how it will find its way to you. You only need to emotionally feel abundant, free, secure, prosperous, safe, – all the states of being that having money offers. The universe will handle the details.

What else did I do?

I changed whatever beliefs seemed to be in the way. For you Afraid, you may have a belief that says, “I can’t make good money in this rural area.” If you do, change it. I have posted some resources to help you in case you don’t know how.

And any time you come to a roadblock, for instance if a technique isn’t working for you, or you want to discover what is holding you back, ask for help. Your unseen friends are waiting to help, but must be asked.

Above all else, have fun with this Afraid. It’s about the journey, remember?

Much love and in joyous creation,

I understand that we do affect everyone else with the vibrations we send out to the universe.

But does that mean other people’s negativity affects us?

Signed,
Wondering

Dear Wondering,

That is a really good question! Because we are all a piece of God and Goddess, and All That Is, yes, we each affect each other on some level.

But, there are a few things to keep in mind:

First, positivity is vastly more powerful than negativity.

Second, you have incarnated in a free will universe. This means you can decide whether you want to be affected by general negativity in your illusion (reality).

The best way to deal with a planet with such polarities as this one is to raise your own vibratory level so that negativity has no impact on you.

Third, there are those people in our lives whom we are more vulnerable to, who can impact us negatively far more than a stranger on the street. Why?

Because we have given them the ability to hurt us by opening our heart and mind to a trusting, loving relationship with them. This is why it is not a good idea to trust people who are untrustworthy.

And most important of all, by taking responsibility for our own lives, by taking our power back, opening to our gifts and talents, choosing and learning how to consciously create a life we absolutely love, we become not only a way shower for others who long to do the same, but the energy we flow assists all who are near us, whether or not we say a word.

It affects the plants, the animals, friends, family, even strangers. Those who refuse this higher vibration will likely find somewhere else to be, but that’s ok. They are on a Soul’s path which is perfect for them.

I hope this helps Wondering.

With love,

I believe in the laws of attraction and keeping thoughts positive. I was first introduced to this through the Secret.

One day a friend I hadn’t seen in 10 years said to me, “Everything you wanted you got”. I then realized it was true and I hadn’t ever realized it.

Now I try to practice training my thoughts. When something negative from the past comes to mind I just say, “God don’t let me think about that. I have forgiven and it is your place to judge the person. It is not my place,” and replace it with a happy thought.

My question is, is consciously creating one’s reality in any way against my belief in God? How do they work together? Could you clarify this?

Signed,
God Loving

Dear Loving,

Consciously creating one’s reality is in no way against a belief in God. In fact, just the opposite. Who do you think set this whole universe up? And yes, He (and She) created us in their images… as creators.

Does God (and Goddess) enter into our manifesting? Yes, absolutely. How?

What we are here to do is to remember the divinity within us. We are a piece of God. We play this ‘earth’ game to have the fun of remembering that. When we become successful at it, we experience ‘heaven on earth’; precisely what we planned to do (when we planned out this lifetime with God, Goddess, our Soul, higher self, etc).

When we fully take our power back, own our divinity and our God-given talents, strengths and gifts (yes, everyone has these… no exceptions), then we can co-create God’s dream for us and this planet.

But we cannot co-create until we own who we are. So those people who say, “I just want to do God’s will,” are missing the point. It is God’s will for us to fully actualize ourselves, and then and only then are we powerful enough to co-create with God.

Imagine you had a business, and you decided it would be fun to have a partner. Would you ask a newborn baby to become your partner? A kindergartener? Even a kid fresh out of college with no experience? Heck no. What would they bring to the table? Nothing.

It’s the same with a partnership with God. While we are spiritual infants, powerless and needy, any type of co-creation is a lie. But when we have proven our creation skills by manifesting a beautiful life, with joy, success and love, then we have some impact to add to the co-creation, and then and only then are we ready to co-create with God.

And paradoxically, we realize that finding our own success, our own joy, our own love of ourselves and others, is God’s plan for us. The most loving and giving thing we can possibly do, is add the highest resonance possible to this energetic mix of consciousness on this planet. Because every bit of flow that comes out of us affects everything in the entire multi-verse.

But, He has other ideas as well, not to be revealed until we have received the gift He (and She) have bestowed upon us… the gift of life with the ability to manifest our personal heaven.

I hope this helps Loving!

With much love and joy,

PS Just because we are not ready to co-create with God until we are powerful, does not mean we cannot receive His/Her guidance, help, love and support every step along the way. The deal we made coming here is that They won’t interfere unless we ask. So ask, please, just ask.

PPS God doesn’t judge. We do. Actually after this lifetime, we don’t even judge. We just ask ourselves if we got what we came here to get, did we do what we came here to do. No judgments. Ever.

“The greatest discovery of any generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering the attitudes of their minds.”  - Albert Schweitzer

A few days ago my husband and I set out on an adventure. We took our dinghy from New Providence Island to Andros… an island I had never been to but was excited to see.

Here’s what happened:

The trip was supposed to take 35 minutes or so, by the charts. It took over an hour.

• We arrived in time for lunch and were hungry indeed. We headed into what we thought was the channel but had to turn around and backtrack all the way out to open ocean again when we saw signs warning we were in ‘restricted waters’. Apparently there is a US naval base there but you don’t really find that out until you are in it.
• The next channel showed more promise, but we ran aground badly in the shallow water. Ouch. A brand new boat too.
• We motored up to a dock that had seen better days – one section of its floorboards hung down into the water. Tide was so low I doubted my ability to even make it from the boat up onto the dock, and if I did I wondered if I would fall right through the rotting floor boards into the water!
• We entered the nearly deserted ‘yacht club’ and sat down – happy to have found a restaurant. Alas, of the four items offered for lunch not one was vegetarian let alone vegan. Leaving a tip for the trouble we left, still hungry.
• Hoping to salvage the trip, we head towards the Batik factory, but to our disappointment the one place we’d hoped to visit on this island was closed.
• By this time it was raining steadily. The forecasted sun was no where to be seen.
• Heading north we avoided the reefs, looking for a Cay that was ‘just up a bit’. Thirty minutes later, we finally found the elusive destination we had heard about.
• Running aground once again, we were remembering the woman who told us about this restaurant warned we would likely not be served without calling ahead.
• Finally we found a place to dock the boat. The ‘resort’ was seemingly deserted, and we headed down sandy pathways hoping to find a person to ask about some food.
• On the way home the wind shifted, the rain continued, and we fought 4-5 foot seas. The estimated 30 minute ride stretched out into 2 hours.

Sounds a bit dismal eh? At least a tad challenging?

Well, this also happened:

• The weather looked good and despite a forecast for the wind to pick up slightly later in the day, we shoved off from the canal behind our house and headed for the deep blue sea (er… ocean). The water was smooth as we headed out. It was fun to travel in this new boat that cut through the water like a warm knife through soft butter. I loved seeing one shore completely disappear just as the next was vaguely taking shape.
• We got to see a real life channel for the US Navy in a third world country! By the way, they mark their channels very well!
• We thought ahead and brought with us a bit of sustenance. Yes, a half a bag of potato chips isn’t filling or healthy, but when you’re hungry and lunch is a ways out they do hit the spot!
• Jerry, at the Fresh Water Cay dock was helpful, kind and knowledgeable. He tied up the boat, hauled us up onto the dock, gave us directions to the restaurant and did it all again when we came out 5 minutes later. For free (although we did tip him for his help).
• We came across a local woman just outside of the restaurant in the otherwise deserted area, who told us all the wonderful places to go on the island. Although she thought most of them would be closed on Sunday or were private resorts and wouldn’t seat us without calling in advance, she was lovely – friendly, helpful and even offered to drive us to a restaurant (but her car was in the shop). Still, wasn’t that sweet?
• One of the places the woman described rung a bell for my husband. He had met the owner just the day prior. How synchronistic was that? And the place he owned was the favorite of all the possibilities our new friend had listed.
• We found Kamalame Cay (pronounced kah’ mal a me key), as described by the native woman and my husband’s new acquaintance, and soon came upon a staff member who took us to the dining building. When we walked into the open air gorgeous building it was a site to behold – the outside reaching in, soft breezes blowing, tasteful island décor and enticing tables ready for lunch.
• Despite what we’d heard we had no problem being served lunch. We sat down to a sumptuous (vegetarian) meal.
• We were given a personal tour of the facilities, which includes a spa built at the end of a long dock. The spa floor is glass so you can watch the fish while you enjoy your massage!
• We were so delighted with our ‘find’ the 2 hour ride back flew by.

What you feed is what grows.

No matter how good you get at creating your reality, there will always be things that don’t turn out the way you expect. If you respond by giving the ‘bad’ things energy, by complaining, lamenting, telling the stories over and over… you will feed the ‘bad’. If you simply laugh it off, keeping in mind what you really desire and recounting only the positive, you feed the ‘good’.

And I’m not talking about just feeding this day. What you think and feel today feeds your future. Every minute of every day you are feeding something. Make sure it is something you want to grow.

We fell in love…

We loved Kamalame Cay so much we went back there for an overnight visit on Valentine’s Day and had one of those fish-watching massages! What could have been a dismal day was one of the most magical days imaginable.

Today, fall in love with the ‘good’. Give it energy, gratitude, attention. And let the ‘bad’ wither and die from starvation.

In joyous creation,

Another Valentine’s Day rolls around and those singles who long for love are emitting exactly the energy that will keep love away: sadness, yearning and wishing for love but feeling oh so… alone.

“Well, how else should I feel,” you may ask, “when I am alone and surrounded by an entire culture celebrating being not alone?”

 Let me let you in on a little secret, “In order to create what you want, you have to ignore – totally ignore – what you have.”

“What?” you say, “How can I ignore being alone when I’m alone?”

Well, you may have to play some mind games to make this work.

You could imagine you have the love of your life and a wonderful, fulfilling, beautiful relationship, but he/she is in a different country on business.

Or (and), when you go to bed at night imagine him/her in bed next to you, snuggled close.

Some might call this fantasy… I call it, “Prepping for The One”.

You see, it’s the thoughts, feelings and beliefs that make realities appear, so if you can think and feel as if you  have something already, you will draw it to you (if your beliefs allow).

It’s just a matter of time.

And honestly, what do you have to lose? It’s not like this isn’t a fun ‘game’. It is very fun to imagine yourself in a loving, supportive, giving, trustworthy, respectful, fun and joyous relationship – isn’t it?

What to do to bring love to you…

First make a list of the attributes you desire in a mate, and write a list of the feelings you will feel when you have this relationship… such as loved, respected, joyful, playful, secure, honored, etc.

Then, for seven nights, read the list (adding more attributes and/or feelings if you desire).

And when you read the list, feel those feelings. Feel how it feels to feel loved, and honored, etc. And when you snuggle into bed imagine your love behind you, hugging you and loving you through the night. You don’t have to see a face, just know they are there.

Then look for ‘signs’ that your resonance is shifting and you are drawing love to you.

What does a sign look like?

It might look like:

You notice a news headline such as, “So-and-so Finds Love at Last!”

Or a sign could be a call from one of your friends saying they are getting married. “What!” you might say, “how is them getting married a sign for me?”

It is a sign because you drew that reality to you… and drawing it to you at precisely the time you are doing this work shows your energy is shifting.

Another sign might be you receiving a little more attention from the opposite sex. “But I want more than a little…” you may complain.

Remember, these are signs, not the relationship itself. In order to bring the full relationship you will need to continue emitting those emotions (by feeling the way you will feel when you have it) for however long it takes for it to manifest.

“What if it takes forever?”

Now that is your adolescent self talking. It won’t take forever but it will take a while. And in order for you to allow it in you will need to continue working on it.

And the signs should help. They will show you that your energy (in the form of thoughts and feelings) does have impact.

And once you begin seeing that, it will give you the encouragement and determination to take the next step and the next! Remember, the only limits on what you can create are you.

Wishing you love in abundance,