What ‘Have Tos’ Are Shackling You?

 

Dear Boni,

I’m a college student who wants to study hard and work hard to receive good grades but I don’t feel much motivation to get my work done. My dream is to sing and make music for a living.

I’m a journalism major, and I know I love writing and I love the idea of writing for a living as well (especially if it’s about music). I love my writing and my music classes, but I have other classes I need to do well in.

I don’t know what to do.

Signed,
Excited to Sing

 

Dear Excited,

You aren’t alone. There are many people out there who think they need to follow a certain path in order to be successful.

You don’t. But if you believe you do, then you do.

This is important. If you believe you do then you do. Your beliefs will make you fail if you quit school to write and sing. And your beliefs will make you fail for a hundred other reasons too, if you let them.

What’s a person to do?

Change your beliefs

I know it seems easier said than done (and honestly, what isn’t easier said than done?). But it isn’t that hard. In fact it isn’t hard at all. It is just elusive. Beliefs are changeable.

That isn’t to say to drop out of school. But after you have changed the belief:

I can’t be successful unless I complete college.

To:

I can be successful whether or not I complete college.

You will then be free to make that choice unobstructed by the ‘have tos’. The ‘have tos’ make us feel bound when we desire to feel free.

They can really mess up our motivation, and if our motivation isn’t clear, we will have a hard time creating what we desire. Why?

Because our desires manifest when we feel good. They do not manifest when we feel bad, and feeling we ‘have to’ do anything feels bad. That is very simplified, but true nonetheless.

If you are doing anything because you think you ‘have to’, you likely aren’t enjoying it and it is probably messing up what you really want.

However, maybe college is the right choice

You did say you are studying music and writing and loved that. That is awesome!

And you said you did not love some of the other classes. My question to you is: Can you change schools or curriculums to have more of the classes you love?

And my other question is: Can you shift your motivation for even some of the classes you don’t love, to be in alignment with your dream, so that you may be excited about doing well in them even if you don’t love them?

For instance, many artists fail because they don’t understand business, finance and marketing. Imagine if you were immediately at the top of your industry because you not only understood these things, but handled them brilliantly?

Can you get excited about English, because it could help you write well? Creative Writing, because it could help you tell the story in your songs? Phys Ed, because a well balanced body will perform better?

You don’t necessarily have to stop doing the things you do, to start feeling good. You can simply change the motivation underneath them.

Instead of motivating out of ‘have tos’, start motivating out of the love for a successful music career.

But first, change the belief that holds you hostage – because until that is different, you probably won’t be able to change the motivation at all.

I hope this helps Excited. Sending you love and light to create all you have dreamed of and more.

In joyous creation,

How DOES Madonna do it? (and how can you?)

Madonna has sold more than 300 million records worldwide and is recognized as the world’s top-selling female recording artist of all time by the Guinness World Records. At 53 years old she continues to amaze people on stage and off – last night’s Super Bowl performance case in point.

We all could learn a thing or two from her; no matter who we are or what we seek to create. No, you don’t want Madonna’s life (really, you don’t).

What you do want though, is your life (a life that is perfect for you) to manifest with grace, ease and spectacular success, like hers does.

How can you do that?

By realizing beneath every phenomenal success or dismal failure lies exactly the same causative factor. Beliefs.

How do I know what Madonna’s beliefs are? While I may not know every belief exactly, her reality shows what she must believe. For no one can create what is not within their belief system.

One of the ways you can discover beliefs is by the words you speak. And Madonna is no exception.

Here is what she says about her success and the nature of reality:

“I’m tough, ambitious, and I know exactly what I want. If that makes me a bitch, okay.” And:

“That consciousness is everything and that all things begin with a thought. That we are responsible for our own fate, we reap what we sow, we get what we give, we pull in what we put out. I know these things for sure.” And:

“Never forget to dream.” And:

“I am my own experiment. I am my own work of art.”

Are those the words of someone who believes she is a victim? Or powerless? Or undeserving? Absolutely not.

And here is what she says about her continued success despite her age:

“I am a survivor. I am like a cockroach, you just can’t get rid of me.” And:

“I feel just as hungry today as I did the day I left home.”

Of course it isn’t just positive beliefs that create her reality.

About relationships:

“I’m anal retentive. I’m a workaholic. I have insomnia. And I’m a control freak. That’s why I’m not married. Who could stand me?”

Madonna’s beliefs create her reality. Yours do too.

What do you believe about success? Love? Money? Health? Relationships?

Clue number one in discovering your beliefs:

What do you say about what you desire and about you?

I listen to people talk about themselves and their reality in disparaging terms all the time. Some of them know about conscious creation, others do not. And their very words are creating struggle, hardship, disappointment and pain.

Are yours?

Your Inner Assignment:

Take stock of what words you say (or think). Anything less than wonderful, write it down. Uncover the underlying belief. Then change it.

Extra credit:

Assign a close friend to call you on your words which are not in alignment with your desires. And write them down. Discover the belief, and change it.

Remember…“Nothing changes – until you do.” ~ A well known and under-understood quote by my dear friend Lazaris.

Good wishes, my friends and fellow creators.

In joyous creation,

 

Ya Gotta Let It Flow Baby!

“From time to time it’s fun to close your eyes, and in that dark say to yourself, “I am the sorcerer, and when I open my eyes I shall see a world that I have created, and for which I and only I am completely responsible.” Slowly then, eyelids open like curtains lifting stage-center. And sure enough, there’s your world, just the way you built it.”
~ Richard Bach

 

Ok so hopefully by now you are so excited you can hardly stand it! You have begun to let it sink in that you, yes you, create every single bit of the world you call your own.

Wow, that is amazing isn’t it?

But simply knowing you create your reality is not enough. If you want to manifest something consciously, you must flow energy towards that desire.

Why flow energy?

If you don’t flow energy nothing will change. You will get what you’ve always gotten, a lot of mediocrity – some good things and some not so good. This is what people call good and bad luck.

When you don’t pay attention and flow energy purposefully you are still creating your reality. Not by making things happen (consciously) but by letting things happen (unconsciously).

Imagine you are a car. And the fuel to get you to your destination (your desire) is energy (emotion).

The more fuel you put in, the faster you go and the faster you get to your destination, right?

Except there is this thing, lets call it anti-fuel. Negativity.

Negativity neutralizes the fuel so that is it powerless. And if it is strong enough, it propels you backwards – further away from the thing that you want.

To flow energy you need to imagine the thing you want and feel positive emotion about it at the same time.

Exactly how do you do it?

There are no limits as to how to flow energy! Just as there are no limits as to what you are capable of creating.

Two critical components are:

  1. Thinking about having the thing you want (notice I did not say think about the thing… but think about having the thing – a subtle but important difference)
  2. Feeling positive emotion (joy, excitement, peace, abundant, happy, free, secure, etc.)

Remember ~ emotion is the key!

Try this technique:

“Igniting Intentions!”

You have your intentions written out right? Uh oh. Back to step one for you.

Now, you have your intentions written out right? “Igniting Intentions” is a technique to light them on fire (metaphorically folks) and notify them, all the aspects of you, and the world at large that you are all about seeing them through to manifestation!

This technique is a way to put attention on, thereby flow energy to, everything on your list of intentions.

Every morning, and every evening, read your intentions (out loud if it is comfortable to do so). What? You don’t have time? Excuse me??

The creation of your world should be your top priority. Kids? Put ‘em in the intentions. Job? It too. Spouse, of course they should be there.

Everything in your world should be in your intentions. You are creating everything anyway – you may as well create everything the way you desire it.

If your intentions are not the most important thing in your life, you don’t understand the way your universe works.

So, read your intentions, each morning and every evening before bed, and just before you read them, read this (or something like this, in your own words if you prefer):

“I call upon my higher self, my soul, my spirit and all unseen friends who would love to assist me in the conscious creation of my personal heaven on earth. I ask for your support and assistance in manifesting all of my intentions with ease, elegance, in the perfect timing and with harm to none.

I request assistance with becoming aware of and understanding any beliefs or habits that stand in my way and that the learning and growing resulting from this process is gentle and loving.

Please also assist me in feeling the emotions fully as I read and manifest these intentions and help me recognize and own the little and big signs that will show these realities manifesting in my world.

I ask your assistance in helping me to manifest a dream even better than my intentions state, and I thank you in advance for your love and support.”

And then, read your intentions. With excitement! With joy! With love and gratitude because the more you can feel these states of emotion the quicker and better your intentions will manifest in your world!

Drop me an email at Boni@livealifeyoulove.com and let me know how the universe is responding to your flowing the fuel for your dreams!

In joyous creation,

 

 

 

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