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Where Does God Fit In?

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Dear Boni,

I believe in the laws of attraction and keeping thoughts positive. I was first introduced to this through the Secret.

One day a friend I hadn’t seen in 10 years said to me, “Everything you wanted you got”. I then realized it was true and I hadn’t ever realized it.

Now I try to practice training my thoughts. When something negative from the past comes to mind I just say, “God don’t let me think about that. I have forgiven and it is your place to judge the person. It is not my place,” and replace it with a happy thought.

My question is, is consciously creating one’s reality in any way against my belief in God? How do they work together? Could you clarify this?

Signed,
God Loving

Dear Loving,

Consciously creating one’s reality is in no way against a belief in God. In fact, just the opposite. Who do you think set this whole universe up? And yes, He (and She) created us in their images… as creators.

Does God (and Goddess) enter into our manifesting? Yes, absolutely. How?

What we are here to do is to remember the divinity within us. We are a piece of God. We play this ‘earth’ game to have the fun of remembering that. When we become successful at it, we experience ‘heaven on earth’; precisely what we planned to do (when we planned out this lifetime with God, Goddess, our Soul, higher self, etc).

When we fully take our power back, own our divinity and our God-given talents, strengths and gifts (yes, everyone has these… no exceptions), then we can co-create God’s dream for us and this planet.

But we cannot co-create until we own who we are. So those people who say, “I just want to do God’s will,” are missing the point. It is God’s will for us to fully actualize ourselves, and then and only then are we powerful enough to co-create with God.

Imagine you had a business, and you decided it would be fun to have a partner. Would you ask a newborn baby to become your partner? A kindergartener? Even a kid fresh out of college with no experience? Heck no. What would they bring to the table? Nothing.

It’s the same with a partnership with God. While we are spiritual infants, powerless and needy, any type of co-creation is a lie. But when we have proven our creation skills by manifesting a beautiful life, with joy, success and love, then we have some impact to add to the co-creation, and then and only then are we ready to co-create with God.

And paradoxically, we realize that finding our own success, our own joy, our own love of ourselves and others, is God’s plan for us. The most loving and giving thing we can possibly do, is add the highest resonance possible to this energetic mix of consciousness on this planet. Because every bit of flow that comes out of us affects everything in the entire multi-verse.

But, He has other ideas as well, not to be revealed until we have received the gift He (and She) have bestowed upon us… the gift of life with the ability to manifest our personal heaven.

I hope this helps Loving!

With much love and joy,

PS Just because we are not ready to co-create with God until we are powerful, does not mean we cannot receive His/Her guidance, help, love and support every step along the way. The deal we made coming here is that They won’t interfere unless we ask. So ask, please, just ask.

PSS God doesn’t judge. We do. Actually after this lifetime, we don’t even judge. We just ask ourselves if we got what we came her to get, did we do what we came here to do. No judgments. Ever.

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Preparing to be a Millionaire!

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 “Man must prepare for the thing he has asked for, when there isn’t the slightest sign of it in sight.”  ~ Florence Scovel Shinn

A Facebook reader* commented on the above quote and asked, “How do you prepare to be a millionaire? Just wondering.”

I think she was joking. But I am not.

If becoming a millionaire is what you want you can have that. You can have anything.

I created becoming a millionaire just a few years out of bankruptcy. It’s totally do-able.

Think of it this way… everything you see, feel, hear, touch, is an illusion. If it’s an illusion, does it really matter how much illusion you have?

Air is an illusion too. But we don’t see it as scarce so we don’t pay any attention if someone is getting more air than someone else. But we do with money. Why? Because we give it more meaning, more weight.

How do you make money more like air, and create an abundance of it like you do air?

You stop giving money weight.

How do you do that? (You do ask a lot of questions… I hear them!)

You change the beliefs like:

It is hard to become wealthy.

You can’t do what you love and be well paid.

In order to be rich you must give up something (your time, your family, your morals etc.)

What else do you do?

You do what Florence Shovel Shinn suggested… you prepare for being there before there is the slightest sign that you ever will be. What did she mean?

I believe she meant prepare physically emotionally mentally and spiritually.

Spiritually ~ Ask for assistance from your unseen friends to help you manifest the abundance you desire. Request that you are shown what stands in your way gently, clearly and with harm to none. Trust they will listen and respond.

Mentally ~ Watch your thoughts and stop thinking like a poor person. Instead, think like a rich person.

Example: You walk into a store you love, and instead of your normal thinking, “Gosh I wish I could buy this and I wish I could buy this…” instead you, the creator of your universe, say, “I could buy anything in here, the money just has not arrived in my account yet, it’s held up somewhere in time and space but it is on it’s way and I can buy anything, if not everything in here!”

Emotionally ~ While you may not have the type of experience (yet) in the photo above, and your actual experience celebrating in your car may be more like this one:

 It is important that emotionally you feel as though you are already a millionaire. That does not mean racking up charges on your credit card. It does mean treating your current car like it were a Mercedes and feeling like you already have the abundance you desire. This is a fun exercise, and so powerful you may be very pleasantly surprised!

Physically ~ This is the “action” part. Do some research on where you will invest your money. Start looking at cars and homes you may consider buying. Plan how you will joyfully spend your time when money is no longer an issue.

Caution: None of this will work unless you have your beliefs in alignment with the dream.

But if you do, baby, sky’s the limit!!

In very joyous abundance,

 

 

 

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Is the Universe Working on My Dream?

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“You are never given a wish without also being given the power to make it true. You may have to work for it however.” ~ Richard Bach

 

Dear Boni,

Is the Universe working on my dreams?

Signed ~ Beautiful Dreamer

 

Dear Beautiful Dreamer,

Yes. The same way you could ask, as you send a document from your computer to your printer, ‘is the computer working on my document?’ The universe has no choice but to work on your dream, the same way your computer has no choice whether or not to send your document to your printer.

The universe is like a computer. Garbage in garbage out. Fear, scarcity, struggle, lack and disappointment in; fear, scarcity, struggle, lack and disappointment out. Love, abundance, joy, creativity, ease and elegance in; love, abundance, joy, creativity, ease and elegance out.

Of course, if you believe the universe is a scary, difficult, malevolent place, your belief will seem to prove you right. So if you think of the world as dangerous and inhospitable, I suggest changing that belief.

Ultimately I think the more important question to ask is, ‘are you working on your dream?’

In my experience, a lot of people like the idea of creating their own reality, but few people actually do anything about it.

Be the exception. Begin. Today. Begin by writing down your intentions. If you have sample intentionswritten down, do a focusing technique. Take action. Do something.

Don’t settle for a life you like. Live a life you love.

In joyous creation,

 

 

 

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Why Should You Listen to Me?

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“Learning is finding out what you already know. Doing is demonstrating that you know it.
Teaching is reminding others that they know just as well as you. You are all learners, doers, teachers.” ~ Richard Bach

 A reader asked recently:

“And if your own life is not exactly as you yourself wish it all of the time, what impels you to believe that you can help anyone else ‘create’ their personal reality?” ~ William

Dear William,

Good question.

I have thought a lot about how much to tell of what I have created. But you are right… if I haven’t done it how could I effectively teach others to do it for themselves?

I came from a very working class family. Money was always a struggle. My father had a ninth grade education and although my mother did graduate from high school, our family struggled. And joy wasn’t exactly abundant. When I came upon the idea that we create our realities, I was still struggling and still mired in self-pity, hopelessness and helplessness.

At first I wasn’t very good at conscious creating. I created little things but not much else. What the concept of conscious creation and my spiritual growth did do, however, was help me take a long hard look at my life, and figure out what I wanted, instead of what other people (and society) wanted for me.

I let go of a lot of what I didn’t want in my life before I began to discover what I did want. It wasn’t long after that I began to get the hang of conscious creation. I worked diligently at creating my dream. I tackled one area of life, and then another, and another and another, until, finally, I had a life I loved.

My life now is most people’s wildest fantasy:

  • We have two homes, totaling more than 20,000 square feet, both newly furnished. One is on the ocean in the Bahamas, and one is on a mountainside overlooking Boulder,Colorado.
  • Five years ago I had never had a passport. Today my passport is so full I have to send it in soon to have more pages added.
  • We travel in private jets and sail the world in our home away from homes.
  • I started a business in my spare bedroom with $25 and grew it into a $5 million company.
  • I married the love of my life a year and a half ago in Fiji.
  • Together we have 9 children and 10 grandchildren and I have created freedom, peace, compassionate detachment and joy around all of my relationships (having had my share of challenges with children).
  • I am transitioning into my current joy professionally – writing and speaking about conscious creation.
  • I am in great health, and most people are surprised at my 54 years on the planet.
  • But most importantly, I am happy. Truly, seriously, delightfully, deliciously happy.

And that is the best part of my life. I have learned, no matter what, that happiness really is not dependent upon what I have or don’t have. My happiness is my choice. And the absolutely coolest part about getting good at conscious  creation, is the ‘trappings’ of life – the money, success, opportunities, etc come naturally if you allow them to, once you have the happiness piece down.

But alas, you didn’t ask how I did it only what leads me to believe I can help others. Well, I didn’t just happen upon this life. I set out very consciously to create a life I loved. I broke it down, step by step, piece by piece, and ferreted out what wasn’t working in my energy field and shifted it. And my life shifted – time after time after time. I think people might find what I learned makes their journey easier.

But don’t take my word for it. Visit my website and take a look at the ‘HUGS’ section and the brand new ‘SUCCESS page. Since this is a new endeavor, I haven’t’ really taught many what I know yet. Still, people are finding value and having successes.

However, is my life “exactly as you yourself wish it all of the time”? Hell no! And I hope it never is for long. Why?

Because when I stop having new dreams it is time to leave the planet. By nature, human beings need to dream. And quite honestly, until this world is one I’m proud to call home, there is still work to be done.

Also, (dammit) I’m human. I’m going to screw up. I screw up often. And when we screw up sometimes we mis-create. So if you are looking for the perfect teacher who never has a bad day… I suggest you look elsewhere. You won’t find her here.

But if you’re looking for a friend to hold the lantern of absolutely certainly that you too, can create a life you love, because she proved the concept in her own life (albeit not perfectly), glad to meet you friend (learner, doer, teacher).

In joyous creation,

 

 

 

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Seriously – Why do you even need me?

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“Find the greatest teachers, ask the hardest questions, they never say, “Study philosophy,” or, “Get your degree.” They say, “You already know.”” ~ Richard Bach


Dear Boni,

What can you do for me that I cannot do for myself? And if your own life is not exactly  as you yourself wish it all of the time, what impels you to believe that you can help any one else “create” their personal reality?

William


Dear William,

I can do nothing for you that you cannot do for yourself. You have everything within you to succeed in creating a dream come true for yourself, your loved ones and your world.

My question to you is – are you doing it?

If you are, clearly you do not require my assistance. Go – enjoy your life!

If you are not – then maybe you, like I did, can learn from and receive help from others. If my words speak to you, wonderful – I am grateful and honored. If not, keep looking (and asking) for those that will.

We are not in this alone. There is more help out there for us than our (relatively) tiny human brains can grasp. Why not receive it?

I have learned from many teachers. Some were teachers for a day, an hour, or less. Others have been with me for more than two decades. Some of my students were also my teachers. And for some of my teachers I have been a teacher to as well.

That said, I don’t think anyone who calls themselves a teacher is necessarily helpful. And while one teacher may be helpful to one, at one level of growth, to another that same teaching could be harmful.

Discernment is very important. Never automatically take a teacher’s truth as your own – try it on. Think about it. Feel about it.

My personal litmus test is: Is my life changing for the better? Whether for a moment, because someone’s words made me feel lighter, or forever, because someone’s technique to access my own power worked.

Teachers don’t do it for us, but make it easier and hopefully more fun to do it for ourselves. Earth can be a difficult place to remember who you are. Personally I’ll take all the help I can get!

Next blog, I will answer the other question you asked, William:

“And if your own life is not exactly as you yourself wish it all of the time, what impels you to believe that you can help any one else “create” their personal reality?”

In joyous creation,

 

 

 

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How to Change Unrequited Love

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“You wait a lifetime to meet Someone who understands you, accepts you as you are.
At the end, you find that Someone, all along, has been you.” ~ Richard Bach

 

Dear Boni.

Hello from Athens Greece! I have read your articles for the past 5 years and they are great. At this point of my life I have a difficult situation to deal with and maybe you can help me.

My intention is to create a relationship with a really nice young man with whom I have been in love for the last 11 months. I am 36 and I dare to say that I have had a bit of intuition since I was a child. However I don’t know if that help me in my life as I don’t seem to have enough power to change my intuitive thoughts about the future.

Anyway, here is my problem: I prefer to make long lasting fulfilling relationships with the “perfect” match. That’s why I have had only one relationship in my whole life for 12 years with my former husband. Now we are divorced (which was mostly my fault). We have been apart for the last 6 years.

I have a clear image of the man I want to be with in my mind and his characteristics. Last November I met a guy exactly like that! I knew it from the first minute and he said “later” to me that he felt it too.

Since we work together we got to know each other very well. I believe that he is almost perfect for me, and so he said. However he is a bit younger and began first relationship and nothing happened between us.

As we got to know each other he seemed interested but didn’t want to cheat so he broke up with her three times in order to be with me. However he had still feelings for her. He felt sorry that he hurt her so badly so he went back to her each time.

I tried when I met him to do the techniques and they worked but at the end I got disappointed and really jealous and lost my alignment. I got mad at him, he was mad at me for treating him badly and we went through a bad period.

We talk and see each other every day but he is still with this other woman. I saw many signs at first now I am really disappointed and I keep crying all day because I fell in love with him. I am desperate!

What do you think I should do (besides looking for another guy)!? I really thing he is the one for me! He has flaws ok… but otherwise he is very nice!

Thank you
Marina

Dearest Marina,

My heart goes out to you. We have all been there – in love and unhappy about something in the relationship. Yes, what you have to be unhappy about is big – your love is with another woman! Still, whether a large or small issue, it always come down to the same thing.

We cannot control another person.

Hear this please – if someone is not acting the way you want them to act, be it boyfriend, spouse, co-worker, family member or friend – you cannot change them!

You cannot change someone else. Period.

You can, however, change yourself and thus your reality will change. But as my dear friend Lazaris reminds us, “Nothing changes until you do”.

It is wonderful you set your intentions on a loving relationship. It is even better that you thought about the characteristics of that relationship. I think where it fell apart for you, is when you received a ‘sign’ that the universe was about to deliver what you ordered, and you assumed it was more than a sign. You assumed it was the relationship!

Now I am not saying it isn’t the relationship. It very well may be. But it probably will not be until your energy is clearer on what you want, what you think you deserve, what you believe is possible and what you will allow.

Let me tell you a story from my life.

A relationship was a deep yearning for me. I knew I had a lot of love to give. I knew I longed for a partner who would love me deeply in return. This was my intention:
I intend to fully enjoy a wonderful loving relationship with a man with whom I’m emotionally, spiritually, mentally, physically and cosmically compatible. I intend for this relationship to be filled with fun, freedom, ease, joy, love, intimacy, vulnerability and trust.

I did create a man coming into my life. I loved him deeply and he loved me deeply as well. We were engaged within a few months.

And then reality hit. Rather my fear kicked in. Was he ‘the one’? Could he be this man I had set my intentions on?

And when my fears manifested as him being fearful. The fear on both our parts spiraled us into more fear, more reasons to fear, and because the love seemed threatened on both our parts, we each tried to control the other.

I probably don’t need to tell you – this turned out badly.

He left. I, although disappointed, vowed to heal and change myself. I dove deep into my psyche, retrieved beliefs that conflicted with what I desired, such as:

The perfect man for me doesn’t exist.

I’ll never meet the perfect man for me.

I cannot be fully myself and be accepted.

I need to bend over backward in a relationship in order to be loved.

I need to earn love.

I need to sacrifice my own needs in a relationship.

My significant other needs to be perfect.

I then changed these beliefs to:

The perfect man for me does exist.

I’ll meet the perfect man for me at the right time.

I can be fully myself and be accepted.

I need to just be myself in a relationship in order to be loved.

I need to receive love.

I need to tend to my own needs in a relationship.

My significant other needs to be willing to grow.

I quickly met, and became engaged to another man, whom I thought was ‘the one’! Much to my dismay, only 6 months into the relationship, this man proved me wrong. Back to the metaphysical drawing board!

I worked again on my beliefs, scrutinized my thoughts, and was more determined than ever to create the relationship of my dreams.

What I realized in the year since ‘man A’ had left, was that I had been trying to control the men in my life since I was a little girl. Thinking I was less powerful than the men in my life, if I controlled them I ultimately would get what I wanted.

More beliefs were discovered:

Everything is an illusion but men.

The more I control, the more I get the love I truly want.

Men are not safe.

Men are more powerful than me.

Men in my life always betray me and I cannot trust them.

And I changed those beliefs to:

Everything is an illusion including men.

The more I let go, the more I get the love I truly want.

Men are safe.

Men can be as powerful as me.

Men in my life always support me and I can trust them.

The real surprise was ‘man A’ then came back into my life, through a series of undeniable miracles. Because I had changed (as had he), the relationship blossomed into one even better than my wildest dreams. We were married later that year, and remain in a state of (nearly always) bliss.

The moral of this story? If you want a life of your dreams you don’t get to choose who plays the roles of family (spiritual family that is), mate, friend, co-worker. You just get to choose that you want it.

And yes, oftentimes this means letting go of those who cannot treat you in the manner that you deserve (which is always wonderful). And sometimes letting go allows them to change into someone perfect (for you). Then again, sometimes letting go allows Mr. Right (for you) to enter stage left.

The Steps Out of Disappointment

I know it is confusing, and difficult to sort out. Breaking it down into small and manageable parts allows you to look at all of the pieces to find out exactly why you are mis-creating.
“The Map” of Conscious Creation reminds us to ask these questions:

  1. Do you remember who you are?
    Marina you are a spark of the divine. And you create your (entire) reality!
  1. What do you want (desire)?
    It seems like you are clear on this, Marina. However, I bet that nowhere in your list of intentions does it state “I intend my partner has another love.” If you do not already have this intention, I would add it: “I intend to create an exclusive, loving, joyful and fun-filled relationship.”
  1. What energy are you putting forth?
    Marina you said it yourself, you feel disappointed and desperate. Remember, the energy (in the form of thoughts and feelings and beliefs) you put out you get back. What you are creating is more disappointment and more desperation.Try imagining a man who loves you so much and is so deeply committed to you he cannot even imagine being with anyone else ever! And then take a look at the beliefs you hold about men and relationships. Beliefs are energy you are exuding 24/7!
  2. What action are you taking?
    I know you don’t want to hear this, but my suggestion is to date other men. If this guy has any hope of being ‘the one’ for you, he will eventually show up and ask for an exclusive relationship. If not, good riddance! You deserve more Marina. Meanwhile, there are lots of fish in the sea. Practice creating and see what you can manifest!
  3. What is your world saying to you (response) and what is your response back? Your world always reflects back to you what you are sending out in the form of energy. If you are happy with what is happening in your reality, thank the universe and enjoy… keep up the good work! If you are not happy, go back and redefine your dream, work on your beliefs and your thoughts and feelings, and take different action.
  4. When not working on the relationship (and even when you are), are you happy?
    Spending your days in worry, doubt and despair won’t help. Find reasons to be happy. Start a gratitude journal. Smell the flowers. Read a good book. Know this is your illusion and you get to choose! (If that doesn’t make you happy I don’t know what will!)
  1. Do you ask for help?
    Every night and every morning… ask your unseen friends to help you manifest the relationship of your dreams. Request that they gently show you what you need to change in you, and help you as much as they can, to heal. Hey, it can’t hurt right?

So how do you turn the energy around and create the relationship of your dreams? You follow “The Map” and one by one take apart the components of your creation. It will take some work, dear Marina, but I know you can do this.

Keep me posted… sending love and light to you for a beautiful relationship!

In joyous creation,

 

 

 

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Skeptical? Join the club!

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“Doubt everything or believe everything: these are two equally convenient strategies. With either we dispense with the need for reflection.”     – Henri Poincare

Dear Boni,

There are a lot of things I’d like to have in my life… more money, a job I really love, a relationship that works better than the one I have now, more happiness, fewer problems, the list goes on and on.

But I have to admit I’m a little skeptical, hell, I’m a lot skeptical that I can have the kind of impact on my life you (and others) say I can. I mean, come on, do we really create our entire realities? And if we do, why don’t the visualizations I do work more often?

Signed,

Want to Be a Believer

Dear Want,

Skepticism is healthy. All of us are skeptical especially in the beginning of our growth. I certainly was. I was in law school as well as pursuing a masters in business – two very linear paths with very logical thought processes. I was the definition of skeptical. Everything needed to be proven before I believed it.

Yet I was open-minded enough to let the proof in. I had been on a spiritual path a number of years before I came across the concept that we “create our own realities.” When I first read that phrase I was blown away! “Imagine the possibilities,” I thought.

I remember the first time I tried to manifest something. I wanted to go to a seminar that would cost over $1,000, which was a great deal of money to me at the time. I did a short but powerful manifesting technique every day for about a month. Within 48 hours, my first “sign” appeared. A $100 check arrived in the mail from a relative for absolutely no reason. “Just wanted you to have this,” she wrote.

Two days later, another unexpected check for $65 came in. All the money had not manifested by the time of the seminar, but enough of it had to buoy my belief that it would. Within the month, another $20,000 yearly income entered my life. Even though that story had a very successful ending, all of my manifestations have not proceeded as smoothly.

Your visualizations won’t work for you every time. Why? Because you don’t fully believe they can, for one. Another reason may be you need to process through more around what you want (making sure you really want it), why you want it (making sure the reason why is ok with you deep down), and whether you honestly believe you can have it (without negative consequence of any kind.)

Also, new dreams are just that… new! If your energy were already in alignment with the dream you would already have it – so obviously some shift has to happen. And it sometimes takes time to manifest. This is a good thing. (Imagine if every horrible thought you had manifested instantly!)

Does it mean the techniques aren’t working if you don’t have your dream the next day? Absolutely not. And yet many sabotage their manifestations because they don’t see instant results.

It takes time, patience (don’t you hate that word?) and perseverance to become masterful at conscious creating. But boy is the time and energy spent worth it!

Here are some tips to keep in mind along your journey:

1. Don’t let your skepticism rot into cynicism. It’s healthy to be skeptical. It keeps you discerning what is right for you regarding your growth at any given period in time. It is debilitating to become cynical.

2. Don’t let your doubt stop you from processing through the reasons you don’t currently have what you want. Remember the world is a perfect reflection of your consciousness. What you have is in alignment with the energy you are putting out. If you are thinking, “This probably won’t work. I don’t really have any impact in my world.” You will create a reality within which you don’t have impact and your world seems randomly caused. Discover and change your beliefs about being able to create your reality!

3. Realize it doesn’t happen overnight (for most of us.) Creating a life we love is a process… just as it has been a process creating the life we currently have. Our beliefs change in small increments, as does our reality. The shortcut: love yourself more.

4. As long as it is going to take some time, enjoy it all. We will never be “done” creating a life we love. There will always be bigger dreams, deeper healings and greater love to aspire to. That alone, is reason enough to begin to enjoy the journey. But even more importantly, the more you enjoy the process, the faster your dreams will manifest. A paradox, for sure, but nonetheless true.

I hope this helps, Want, to change your name from “Want” to “Believer”.

Much love,

 

 

 

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Dealing with the chaos – not for the weak of heart

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SR asks:

“How do you deal with the chaos?  It seems like changes are coming into my life in just about every arena.  My business is growing but demanding I learn much more intensive bookkeeping practices, my home is being repaired and improved but demanding all kinds of old stuff be cleared out, my organic garden needs a ton of work to move forward, some friends and family are dying while others are creating serious health problems so they can medically change problems they were probably born with.  And I feel scattered responding to whatever situation is screaming the loudest rather than focusing on one area and getting it done.”

Hi SR,

You are dealing with something we are ALL dealing with. Chaos and the result of chaos – change. Yes, these are turbulent times. And YES – you create your own reality – more powerfully and more quickly than ever before. And you are changing – we all are – more rapidly and more completely than has ever happened in any physical reality EVER. And sometimes that results in challenges. Challenges we place on ourselves, because it is our fervent wish to evolve and grow and experience that ‘Delicious Life’ that we know only too well is available for us to live. We challenge ourselves to grow, expand, heal and dream bigger dreams – all resulting in (you guessed it) more chaos!

Chaos is a precursor to change. Chaos can be dark or light. Chaos is generally unnerving and oftentimes scary. Chaos is the state of the unknown, when everything is up in the air and resolution has yet to be found. Chaos is a sign that you are letting down your defenses and opening up to the possibilities of the universe. Chaos can be fun.

So back to your question, how to deal with the chaos? Because chaos isn’t fun if it brings up fear. Chaos isn’t fun if it feels overwhelming. Chaos isn’t fun if it spirals from light and expansive to dark and foreboding. So here are some suggestions to not only take your power back in the chaos but to delight in it – expecting expansion and greater joy, love, freedom and hope.

  • First and foremost, know where you are going. What is your dream? What are your intentions? You can’t sail a ship without a rudder and a sail. You end up at the mercy of the current and the wind. And you cannot captain your own life without being just as intentional. Write down your intentions. Read them daily. KNOW you will manifest them. FEEL the excitement of that. DELIGHT in the joy of the signs that dot the path to success. And when chaos hits, draw your stability, your deep knowing, your strength and determination in your absolute conviction that you want, deserve and will create a delicious life.
  • Scrutinize your beliefs and change the ones that are not in alignment with your dream. It is great you took the time to outline the areas of your life that felt chaotic to you SR. Writing or speaking of what you do not want is a wonderful tool, because as you look back you can discover what you do want and uncover beliefs that may be standing in your way. For instance, regarding your business, do you believe you have to teach yourself bookkeeping, or could it come from someone else who wants to help teach you or even take over that task? Do you believe growing the business can be easy and elegant or must it be a struggle? Do you believe you can ‘receive’ success or must you earn it?
  • Narrow your focus. Ok so maybe your home being improved does require you clear out the old to make room for the new (metaphorically and physically?). One of my very favorite techniques is to ‘narrow my focus’. This means absolutely positively tuning out EVERYTHING but the task at hand. And even the task at hand should be summarily ‘narrowed’ so that you aren’t focusing on the entire room that needs to be cleaned out but the one piece of paper in front of you that your attention is currently on. Learning how to narrow your focus will help you with the next two steps.
  • Let go. It’s hammered into us from the time we are tiny – to control our world because we believe if we do we will be safe. So when chaos strikes, it results in our feeling even further out of control (because we are) and the knee jerk reaction is to hold on even tighter. And yet the worst thing we can do is to try and stop the flow, which is what control does. In the chaos is the time to let go of control. It is the time to trust in the universe and its benevolence and in your own power to create the life you desire. The chaos is the time your knowing is put to the test. Can you let go? Can you trust? Can you relax despite what is happening around you? This is easier said than done. Especially if the chaos results in apparent threats of lack. Lack of a job, lack of money, even the threat of suffering or death of those we love. How does one let go in the face of what fills us with fear? By realizing what you feed grows strong. So feed your fear and you will have more reason to fear. Feed your lack and you’ll have more lack. Feed your sadness about those who are making choices that are filled with pain instead of joy and you will see more pain and less joy in your life. Let the universe bring you your dreams, but don’t control how they manifest. And don’t try to control how others manifest their dreams or their nightmares. Let them choose. And dream them happy. Hold that vision (and that resonance) for yourself and those you love. THAT is loving.
  • Stay present and have fun. Above all else, stay out of worries of the future and stay away from replaying the past. Stay firmly in the present. Choose joy each now moment. And you will be surprised and delighted at your ability not only to navigate the chaos, but to use its energy to further your dream and your life.

Good luck SR! And let me know how these suggestions work in your world!!

With love and light,

 

 

 

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