Boni

Who ARE You?

“What is essential is invisible to the eye…” Antoine de Saint Exupery

It breaks my heart that most people haven’t a clue about who they really are. Nearly all of the people I talk with, whether on the ‘path’ or not, do not recognize the majesty of their being.

On the other hand, it is important to remember that we came to this planet as physical beings with the foremost intent to forget who we really are!

We wanted to have the experience of removing ourselves from Source (or God, or Goddess, The Divine or whatever) so that we could have the awesome experience of remembering.

So that people forget, really isn’t that big of a deal. But that people remember is a big deal.

Why? Because if you remember that you are divine, you remember that in your divinity you have been given the gift of creation. You are a god being.

You are also eternal. You can never die. Oh yeah, your body will die. But you are not your body. Your body, like the rest of this planet and all the people on it, is an illusion – an elaborate, very believable illusion.

So what does one do with this information?

Let it in. Stop judging the god-being you are. And stop judging the god-beings others are.

You mean they are divine too? I thought they were part of the illusion?

They are divine. They are part of the illusion. Everything is divine. And everything you can see or touch or hear or smell is part of the illusion.

And you are creating it all.

So to judge anything or anyone (all of whom are both divine and your creation) is ridiculous. It would be paramount to being mad at someone who hit you in a dream.

The more you own your own majesty, your light, your love and your ability to create your world, the more empowered you will be.

Start today. With this intention: I intend to own and experience my own majesty, love, divinity and my ability to create my entire reality to the greatest extent I am capable.

And watch your life begin to change.

I love you.

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How to Stay Happy

By Boni 4 Comments

“Happiness is like a butterfly; the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.” ~ Henry David Thoreau

While most people would argue having a life you love will make you happy, I would argue that happiness will help you to create a life you love.

Think about it. Emotions create reality.

Be happy. Manifest more in your world to be happy about. Be unhappy. Manifest more in your world to be unhappy about. Easy peasy.

What? Not so easy?

No, I guess it isn’t. If it were more people would actually be happy, wouldn’t they?

Yes, even for me staying happy is a constant effort. Notice I didn’t say it’s a struggle… it’s not. But I do have to stay conscious about it and continue to do what it takes to keep the happy. And what does it take?

Well, I suppose this might be a little different for everyone, but I have 10 suggestions most of which on their own do shift me into happy – but combined together they are kick-ass vibe lifters!

I challenge anyone to stay unhappy if they earnestly apply these suggestions:

Set an intention

Intentions are the cornerstones to creating your reality folks. And every part of your life deserves at least one! Here is mine for my well-being emotionally:

I intend to live in the now and feel greater and greater depths of love, fun, joy, happiness, ecstasy, compassion and caring for myself and others; to have fun continuously, and to open (more every day) to my creativity, psychic abilities and passion.

Hold it in your image

When you think of yourself, do you think of an ecstatically happy person? No? Well lets change that shall we?

Your self concept keeps you locked into a reality that will support your self concept. Change your vision of yourself, and you will change your reality.

Affirmation: I am happy and becoming happier each and every day!

Look for reasons to be happy

It doesn’t take much of this to shift from self-pity (or any other constrictive state) to happy. Keeping a gratitude journal is one of the most amazing ways to stay happy and exuding a flow of good things coming to you.

The caveat: you must do this in earnest. Writing a laundry list that you don’t feel real love and appreciation towards is an exercise in futility. It only counts if you’re actually feeling the gratitude.

Empower yourself

It’s hard to feel happy if you feel powerless and hopeless. And some people have good reason to feel this way, and perhaps happiness eludes them. You’re not one of them.

If you are reading this blog you are ready to accept your divinity, your power and your ability to create your own reality. But it doesn’t happen overnight and it doesn’t happen just by saying it.

If you have beliefs that deny who you are, that downplay your power, that imply you don’t deserve a phenomenal and exciting life you absolutely adore, then change them.

If you are serious about being ecstatically happy and creating a life you love, your growth should be a priority. It is possible. Commit.

Slow, slow, slow down

One of the biggest happiness stealers is multi-tasking.

What? You couldn’t live without multi-tasking? Ok, fine. But you will have to give up ‘multi-thinking’ if you are serious about happiness.

Most of us are so focused on what is left to do, we stop paying attention to what it is we are doing. And it stops being enjoyable. And there goes our happy.

Give yourself 5 minutes a day, or 5 minutes 3 times a day, to make a list of what needs to be accomplished that day. That’s it. The rest of the time, slow down and be present.

Really feel the sun on your face as you walk to the car. Really pay attention to that store clerk who bags your groceries. Send ‘em a little love. Really focus on that email and only that email, not the 72 unread in your inbox.

This is a magical fix folks. Try it. You’ll like it.

Honor your needs and what feeds your Soul

We all have things that nurture us, that feed our soul and rejuvenate us. Some of these things are actual needs.

I have a need for solitude. If I don’t get solitude at least once a week if not each day, I am not a happy camper. Life gets hard and I get cranky. For me, solitude is a need.

For my husband, physical exercise is a need. When he is able to swim, bike, play tennis or ski, everything else he does gets easier. For him, exercise is a need.

What are your needs? Are you giving yourself permission to fill them?

And what feeds your Soul? Things that feed your Soul aren’t needs, they are preferences that offer great benefit. They are the things that you love that make you more.

Being in nature may feed your Soul. Beauty may feed your Soul. Music may do this for some. Hobbies do this for others.

Giving yourself the permission and time to do the things that nurture you is a key to staying happy.

Take good care of you

Your body has needs, which if not heeded, can have debilitating effects on your physical and emotional bodies. Good clean diet, exercise to fit your temperament, and relaxation activities to reduce stress should all be part of your normal way of life.

If they aren’t, please add them. A body undernourished, filled with toxins, and stressed out is not going to add to your happiness or your ability to consciously create your world.

If you don’t believe you can add these things to your life, for either financial reasons or time constraints, change those beliefs! Your life is your creation.

Use mood altering substances

Ah, now don’t get excited, that’s not what I’m talking about.

I am talking about amazing mood altering, nature given flower essences and aromatherapy.

I have worked with Bach Flower Remedies for years. And they are phenomenally effective (actually miraculous) in lifting your emotional well-being to higher states.

Aromatherapy is another great way to change your mood. Simple and effective, aromatherapy is in widespread use by medical professionals in Europe and although it hasn’t caught on as well in the USit is readily available.

There are lots of good aromatherapy books out there, but make sure you only buy 100% pure essential oils.

Get professional help (if you need it)

We all need a little help sometimes. And that goes for mentally and emotionally too.

If you are dealing with intense grief, depression, anxiety or other debilitating emotional states, find someone to help you through this until you can manage getting to the happy place by yourself.

Ask for help (need it or not)

Finally, don’t forget to call on your unseen friends. Although this is listed last, it is actually the first thing I do when I find myself in a state less than total joy!

How do you ask for help? Just say something like (in your head), “Hey Higher Self, Soul, counselors, and the rest of my team, I intend to feel happy, and I’m not there right now… please help me to get there?”

That’s it. They are always there… always listening, and if you allow them, will always help.

Good luck staying happy folks… I know it’s possible, and I know you deserve it.

In joyous creation,

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What ‘Have Tos’ Are Shackling You?

By Boni 2 Comments

Dear Boni,

I’m a college student who wants to study hard and work hard to receive good grades but I don’t feel much motivation to get my work done. My dream is to sing and make music for a living.

I’m a journalism major, and I know I love writing and I love the idea of writing for a living as well (especially if it’s about music). I love my writing and my music classes, but I have other classes I need to do well in.

I don’t know what to do.

Signed,
Excited to Sing

Dear Excited,

You aren’t alone. There are many people out there who think they need to follow a certain path in order to be successful.

You don’t. But if you believe you do, then you do.

This is important. If you believe you do then you do. Your beliefs will make you fail if you quit school to write and sing. And your beliefs will make you fail for a hundred other reasons too, if you let them.

What’s a person to do?

Change your beliefs

I know it seems easier said than done (and honestly, what isn’t easier said than done?). But it isn’t that hard. In fact it isn’t hard at all. It is just elusive. Beliefs are changeable.

That isn’t to say to drop out of school. But after you have changed the belief:

I can’t be successful unless I complete college.

To:

I can be successful whether or not I complete college.

You will then be free to make that choice unobstructed by the ‘have tos’. The ‘have tos’ make us feel bound when we desire to feel free.

They can really mess up our motivation, and if our motivation isn’t clear, we will have a hard time creating what we desire. Why?

Because our desires manifest when we feel good. They do not manifest when we feel bad, and feeling we ‘have to’ do anything feels bad. That is very simplified, but true nonetheless.

If you are doing anything because you think you ‘have to’, you likely aren’t enjoying it and it is probably messing up what you really want.

However, maybe college is the right choice

You did say you are studying music and writing and loved that. That is awesome!

And you said you did not love some of the other classes. My question to you is: Can you change schools or curriculums to have more of the classes you love?

And my other question is: Can you shift your motivation for even some of the classes you don’t love, to be in alignment with your dream, so that you may be excited about doing well in them even if you don’t love them?

For instance, many artists fail because they don’t understand business, finance and marketing. Imagine if you were immediately at the top of your industry because you not only understood these things, but handled them brilliantly?

Can you get excited about English, because it could help you write well? Creative Writing, because it could help you tell the story in your songs? Phys Ed, because a well balanced body will perform better?

You don’t necessarily have to stop doing the things you do, to start feeling good. You can simply change the motivation underneath them.

Instead of motivating out of ‘have tos’, start motivating out of the love for a successful music career.

But first, change the belief that holds you hostage – because until that is different, you probably won’t be able to change the motivation at all.

I hope this helps Excited. Sending you love and light to create all you have dreamed of and more.